Saturday, December 23, 2006

of post-exams break, names and grudges

it's been 2 days since exams ended. i've been so lazy. lemme cerite what i've been doing post-exams. macam beku sikit the exam period. bukan best sgt pun. but i have to use much more neurons than these nonsensical entries.

we have only 5 days of after exams break. there was supposed to be a programme this weekend that my frens and i were to be involved in but due to the terrible weather, it was postponed. becoz, i'd already planned on going back for raya haji, going back now was out of the question.

so i'd cleaned my messy and dusty room, sorted out my notes and did the laundry. ah, the feeling of being in a nice, clean room is priceless. then, i had a wonderful prison break-marathon season 2 episode 9 to 13. i soo totally love michael's character. these seniors sume ade a whole collection of House MD. i had an awesome time watching those.

well, all play and no work makes jack a stupid boy (stupid ke? sth like that la). alang2 nak masuk posting Obstetrics and Gynaecology this tuesday, asma', syahadah and i went to the labour room. thought we'd observe some deliveries and familiarise ourselves with the wards. we got to observe 2 deliveries and 2 episiotomies. i helped out by making the milo for the mommies. owh, the babies were absolutely adorable. macam nak gigit2 je sume. i just might enjoy this O&G posting. hmm, 3 months of it. cool!
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what's the sweetest word to one's ear??? their NAME!

the slightest mistake in it's pronusciation would irritate that person and trigger him or her to spontaneously correct the error. even a minor spelling error cannot be tolerated.

while some people (no particular person in mind), cringe at the unthoughtfulness of those who forget to put the apostrophe at the beginning of their names, i on the other hand, cannot stand it when people add it to mine.

if they add it in front of the name, it makes a terrible sengau sound. when added at the rear, it's worse. the latter mistake occurs more commonly. hmm, i thot my 4-lettered name was easy enuf. i guess it's too unique that mistakes are highly likely, hehe.
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Forgiveness: A Gift to Ourselves

This is a story about a teacher who told each of her students to bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes to school. The teacher suggested to her pupils that for every person they had refused to forgive in their life's experience, they were to take a potato, and write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag.

The teacher then told each of her students to carry this bag with them on their shoulders and on their backs everywhere they went for one week keeping the bag next to them at all times even beside their beds at night and by their desk throughout the school day, basically 24-hours a day.

Some of her students complained that the plastic bags were too heavy to lug around. The hassle of physically lugging these heavy plastic bags around with them made it clear to the students what their teacher was trying to convey to them about the value of friendship and forgiveness. The students realized what a weight they were carrying spiritually.

This is a great metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity. Too often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person, but it clearly is for ourselves.

Remember what Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) teaches us in Surah Al-A'raf [7:199-200]:

"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the ignorant (i.e. don't punish them). If a suggestion from Satan assails your mind, seek refuge with Allah; for He heareth and knoweth (all things)."

Of all the things we can give other people in life, forgiveness is one of those that require the most effort. This phrase seems to make the process of forgiving easier for me: "To bear a grudge against someone is like burning down your house to get rid of a rat."

Discouraging and spiteful words and actions from other people can only have the desired effect if you want them to. Give yourself the pleasure of a free spirit.

Forgiveness is something we "give other people", but forgiveness, really, is a gift to ourselves. When we wreak vengeance on people whom we think have done us an injustice, we invariably end up bitter and resentful.

Each day yields opportunities for us to let go of or hold on to grudges, although the severity of each situation may vary. Are you better off holding on to them, or letting go?

i took this from a fren's blog and realized how related it is to the current happenings here.
it also reminded me of a few potatoes i need to let go. i can clearly see how it has affected our dear miss anon. i sure don't want to want to go thru that. however, it's easier said than done.
must work on shedding them inshaAllah.

2 comments:

azzahra said...

hey awla'

haha, just wanted to get on ur nerves..haha

im sure u'll love o&g, at least i did (esp when xms are over), tp serious, kalo tension2 gi tgk muke baby, fresh new faces into the world, it makes all ur kepenatan of being in the labour rum melt away

drlola said...

hmmm, we've been roomies for 2 yers now. my tolerance for u is high and i'm immune to ur teasings :P

neways, i absolutely love those babies. can't wait to deliver my ten bundles of joy! currently still nulliparous.