A perfect lover?

okay this is just to entertain 'Umayr.. since he's tagged me and all... how this thing works i'm not so certain... malas nak sambung but this topic memang lah best :P
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I don’t believe there exists a PERFECT lover so i have no delusions of having one. If there is one, he or she must be lying. Everyone has his or her own Achilles' heel. But everyone also has their own strengths and capabilities. All this added up makes that person unique. I’d rather someone who has flaws and faults since I am far from perfect myself.

But I do have some ideas of the person I wish to spend the rest of my life married to.

He must ...

1. ... be a mu’min first and foremost.
I don’t think this point needs further elaboration.

2. ...not only be a soleh person but also musleh
What’s the difference? A soleh person is good for himself; a musleh person invites others to do good too.

3. ... be someone who perceives life through the glasses of Islam
When someone makes Allah’s Shariah his measurement for his every decision, then he can do no wrong. Okay, maybe not all the time, but at least he tries and that’s good enough for me. That way, I’ll have someone to remind me lest I go astray.

4. ...accepts myself for what I am with all my faults and limitations and supports me in my own dreams and goals
He must realize that he’s married a doctor and I have my obligations and responsibilities that come with the profession. And if he’s married me, then I’m positive he’s not superficial. He must also believe in me and my potential and that I can improve on my weaknesses and difficulties in due time.

5. ...have vision
I don’t mind if I marry someone penniless as long as he knows where he’s headed, what he wants in life and has a plan for the future. Even a rough idea would do. Then I’ll certainly go all out to support him. We must also share the same vision, kalau tak mesti susah kalau nak gi two separate ways.


6. ...be brave and patient
Hey, if he is my husband, he really is brave. I realize that I’m not the easiest person to deal with :P

7. ...accepts my whole rowdy clan and also is accepted by them
Hmm susah ni nak approval kakyung and yeop. Yeop vows to interrogate whomever I end up with since I teased him terribly dulu :P

8. ...be someone I can talk to and tell everything to.
At the end of the day, all I want to do is tell him everything so he has to be a good listener. When that day comes, I might not need this blog anymore. Owh, and being good in English is an absolute bonus.

My husband might not be everything I wish for, but if he’s the one Allah intended for me, then he must be the best person for ME.

My friends and I, we think that our previous naqibah’s husband is absolutely wonderful. She is truly blessed to have married him. This is merely my superficial observation. He’s a great da’ie, does everything and is rich too. He can get along with everyone. He does the shopping, pays the bills, and even makes lovely drinks. He goes all out to support her in her profession as a doctor although I doubt he understands much of it since he is not in the same field. They don’t always agree on things, but then they agree to disagree. How cool is that?
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btw, yesterday, i witnessed a baby being delivered for the first time. it wasn't as horrifying as i imagined it but i could see that the orang asli lady was in extreme pain even though it was her 13th delivery but tenth child. there was also a 20-year-old unmarried female waiting to go into labour. she was all alone. a part of me thinks 'sian dia'. the other part doesn't know what to think. the nurses didn't allow students to conduct the delivery because it was a high risk case for her previous medical status were unknown. i didn't stay on to observe the delivery.

i am still not confident in clerking a patient and history taking. yesterday there was this ex-IVDU (intravenpous drug user) patient who had just had a surgery to remove a mycotic aneurysm on his thigh. after reading his bed ticket, i'd felt somehwat differently toward him..

i have a long, long, long road ahead.